My personal experience with grief and loss
Healing from grief is just as important as eating a balanced diet, getting enough sleep, and moving every day. I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life, most specifically my father who passed in 2009, after which I didn’t eat for five months, stayed in bed all day (except for when I went to work), used a lot cannabis, and binge-watched Dexter. One of the things that stands out most about that time is that I stopped eating. I’ve always loved cooking, even consider it my art, and grieving took that away from me. I had absolutely no interest in taking care of myself. I lost 22 pounds — people would ask “Did you lose weight?” and “You look so good” and I would get so angry with them I’d literally have to ball my fists and take deep breaths so I didn’t punch them. I didn’t want to lose weight or look good; I just wanted my dad back, and my weight loss was an effect of my grief over losing him. In addition to my dad’s death, I’ve also experienced the loss of three grandparents, close friends (including one of my best friends from college), emotionally draining jobs, relationships ending (both romantic and platonic), parents’ divorce, multiple traumas, and the loss of my sense of self. All of these losses have impacted my life in various ways, but most importantly, they have held me back from being my best self.
Healing for myself
I came across The Grief Recovery Method® when I was researching my final project at Bauman College. Everything about the Method was invigorating…especially the idea that we can recover from grief and mend our broken hearts. I had a life-changing, transformative experience upon taking the training to become a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®: after four days of going through the Method, healing from my traumas, and saying “goodbye” to my losses, I came out a different person, one that feels lighter and more complete than I ever have before. It was a profound experience that I hope I can share with others.
how does it work?
Grief is the normal and natural emotional response to loss, but most of the information we’ve learned about dealing with loss is intellectual. We’ve learned many myths about grief, like having people tell us “Be strong",”Keep yourself busy,” or (my personal favorite) “Time heals all wounds.” These are all BS. If you’ve experienced a loss, these sayings do nothing to relieve the pain you feel in the days, weeks, months, or years after it happens. Effective Grief Recovery must deal with your broken heart, which requires emotional support instead of intellectual explanations.
Grief Support Groups
The Grief Recovery Method® Support Groups provide a safe environment for you to look at your old beliefs about dealing with loss, which losses have affected your life, and take actions that will lead you to complete unresolved emotions that may still be causing you pain.
1:1 Grief Support
Like the Grief Recovery Method® Support Group, you will still have the chance to look at your old beliefs about dealing with loss and complete your unresolved grief, only you’ll be committing to 8 weeks of 1:1 support with me instead of in a group setting.